How to overcome depression when everything in your life sucks?
I don’t want to take any medications and I’d rather not see a therapist or whatever.
For the last couple of months, I’ve been dealing with depression. I used to be a super happy person, always laughing and taking life not too seriously, but lately I’ve realized that my life kinda sucks.
At home, I have to deal with my parents’ separation and my mom doesn’t help as she sometimes talks sh!t about my dad (which I don’t need or want to hear) and she also makes me mad by complaining all the time (which I kind of understand as she is going through bad times too).
Work is so boring, nothing exciting happens and it doesn’t motivate me at all. Conveniently enough, I work with my dad, so the last two weeks I haven’t even showed up, ’cause I really, really don’t feel at all like working. I obviously can’t find another job because they would fire me instantly as I wouldn’t go.
School is also boring, not even one subject motivates me.
I barely see my friends anymore as we have different classes and schedules now, plus they’ve all got into relationships and spend their little free time with them.
I recently lost my loved one, whom I went to whenever I felt blue, so… yeah, ironic I guess.
My car, which I liked to death, had a recent problem and even after I took it to a shop, they told me it was never going to be the same again, so now it shakes all the time and it basically sucks.
My birthday is next Saturday. I came up with the idea of going to San Diego (my fav city) for the weekend with my friends, but they all ended up canceling for different reasons. I’m not looking forward to it at all, I don’t even know what I’ll do and I’m not even sure I feel like doing anything. I’m turning 21 by the way.
I don’t feel at all motivated to do anything anymore. I’ve read other people advise doing exercise, eating healthy or focus on positive things, all which sounds impossible to do since I’m NOT motivated to do anything
Nothing seems to make me happy anymore, and I just can’t focus on something positive since I just don’t seem to find anything I can hang onto.
I wouldn’t suicide or anything, but still it sucks to be like this and I just don’t want to stay this way anymore. I want to overcome this depression soon as it gets harder every day.
What do you think I can do? I think I need to do something different and new, I kinda think I need like a spiritual rehab or something. I’m not religious though. I don’t know, I’m so lost. Please help. Thanks.
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Make yourself busy. We all need to feel like we’re involved in something significant. We need to participate in something outside ourselves. You might consider volunteering at a local women’s shelter or food pantry. That will elevate your mood as well as your self esteem.
Exercise is good for us, but physical contact is equally important. Exercise affects brain chemicals, and the healing touch of physical closeness does too. If you’re depressed, hug somebody – anybody, everybody! A hug is good medicine. It reduces stress and tension and it boosts your immunity to illness. Hugs raise self esteem and lower blood pressure. They feel good and make people happy. And they’re free! Hugs are the universal language that communicates love and acceptance. They’re healthy for the "hugger" as well as the "hugee."
Learn to laugh. It really will make you feel better. Visit a local joke shop or toy shop. Buy books and magazines that you find entertaining and amusing rather than just educational. hire a funny video and invite one or two friends round to enjoy it with you.
Build up your self-confidence. People who suffer from depression often lack self-assurance. Write an advertisement for yourself listing all your good qualities. Carry your advert with you and look at it whenever you’re feeling down.
Talk to someone about it. A problem shared is a problem halved. Have you ever felt better by getting something off your chest? Of course you have. Did talking about a problem in the past help to put it into perspective and perhaps make it easier to deal with. I would guess you have probably been there too. Depression is no different. Find someone you can trust and get talking about it. Friends, family, your doctor, support groups both online and off….You might even find that someone comes up with an idea you have never thought of which just might work for you.
be the change you want to see in your life……
don’t like dealing with parents? Move out or tell them that they have to stop putting you in the middle
hate school? Then take a year off to think about what career you would really enjoy, if u hate it now, imaginge doing it for the next 30 years!
Your a guy, find a cute girl and ask her out
car’s still there(ur a guy) go to the city by yourself and see if you can join any bar hop parties or if their is a concert going on..
mopping ain’t gonna make it better, it’s just the easier way out
I still say you should be on an antidepressant. Go to your Dr. and tell him/her these symptoms.
Since you are going to turn 21, this should actually be a good time for you and it’s ok if it isn’t, you have a lot on your plate. And because of this, it’s hard to find any joy in life with your parents recent split so your home life environment isn’t the most positive right now.
You need to get back to work so you can one day soon, move out and try and get a place with a friend. It sounds like you’re going to college, so I’m sure expenses are an issue, but you’ll have to try.
Sometimes we just need a little push to get us in the right direction. The right medication will most certainly help you look at the little things more clearer and you’ll be glad you did when you feel that smile on your face again.
The problem with not going on a medication right now, is you don’t want to wait so long, that you have a hard time just getting there. It can creep up on you pretty fast. But let your Dr. decide what to do. Talk to your Doctor, tell him you just don’t find any joy in the things you use to do and you can’t even get yourself to work.
The sooner you do this for yourself, the better you’ll be. I know it’s hard to see the forest for the trees, but if you want that old person back, sometimes you have to reach out and take the help that is out there for you, even if it means going to a counselor, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
I’m sorry you’re having to go through your parents separation, don’t you think this could be a big part of why you feel so depressed? It’s not your fault and it’s not your fault you are so sad about it.
It’s ok to be sad, but you are getting ready to turn 21 and I want to send you a Happy Birthday wish anyway
Do what you can for yourself, take care of yourself and love yourself.
Big hugs for your 21st birthday and be safe:)
Is there anything good going on in your life. The people who love and care for you. I do know how you feel about life sucking, but I also know it is what you choose to focus on that determines the course of your life. Focusing on yourself and the things that are hurtful and sad are making you feel progressively worse. There is no more benefit for you to dwell on these thoughts any longer. If you are bored, find new activities to do. Go for a walk and meet new people. Look for people who seem happy, it will spread to you. Go to the gym to exercise and concentrate on your workout. Pursue hobbies that you used to enjoy. The ultimate way to get your mind off yourself, volunteer at a nursing home, big brother program or something like that. When you start helping others through their problems, somehow your problems seem smaller and more manageable. Life is harsh, but if you consider your loved ones and the good things you do have, and try to help others through their problems, life becomes sweeter.
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