It is essential that one does not allow anger to control his affairs especially when dealing with people. So many people that cannot control their anger and have therefore suffered in one way or the other form its consequences. Anger, if not controlled can actually cause a lot of irreparable damages. Several friendships, relationships have been left with its tale of woes, basically because we have lost in totality, our self control. To live a reasonable life, one must be able to control his anger no matter the degree of provocations.
Anger is expressed when someone has been provoked wrongly. Provocation however is not wholly associated with anger; there are provocations that spur you to achieve better; this means provocation is of various types and that our interest here is in its relevance to anger. I will register that anger comes from wrong provocations. The point here is, ability to control one’s anger is a major factor that is inherent in the nature of such person’s temperament. Temperament I believe is the nature of a person that is unique to him and how it controls his/her behaviors. I shall therefore describe anger here in my opinion and examine also why most people find it difficult to control.
Anger is a habit that controls a person as tenaciously as any stimulant or hard drug making such react inwardly and outwardly in a selfish manner. This implies that anger is like being lured by bait to a trap that eventually take over your entire reasoning and make you behave funny. So many people are amazed; especially for the first time at what they can do when angry! I think anger is a temporary madness too, that is a function of passion, but am sure a well controlled passion will not be identified with it. Anger is also connected with aggression. A highly aggressive fellow is more prone to becoming angry very quickly; such have been said to have high Adrenalin content it their body. When angry, it is like living in a transient world of mind derailment; that seem to estrange your countenance at the moment. It is a proven fact that anyone can become angry; this however must be with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose. Some conditions will however warrant being angry; this has to be within limits and must be channeled towards achieving results. There should be no needless expression of anger.
We must all agree with the assertion that says prevention is better than cure; this is because to rule over one’s anger is well; but the ultimate is to prevent it. Even if it involves walking away where necessary do it! Do anything possible not to be provoked in case you are the high mood type. Psychologists advise that when angry, one should count down from four as it helps reset temper to normal. Tolerance is also very important to effective anger management. The reason conflicts abound is lack of it. Let us learn to tolerate ourselves the more for better. The ultimate reason one must not allow anger at all is because it is very easy to pull down than to build up; so why can’t you save yourself these gratuitous efforts?
