An important factor that needs to be considered when you plan to do Anger Management course is to identify the origin of your anger.
Different people have different kinds and degrees of anger and so the person himself / herself who suffers from intense anger is the right person to identify his source of anger. In simple terms, you will be the best person to identify your source of anger.
Identifying your origin of anger would be quite a tricky part in anger management but it is the most vital part as it plays a major role when you head your way to go through any anger management course. Because it’s quite hard sometimes. You might have started building anger against your partner at some stage due to something you might have not liked about your partner’s behavior / habit, etc. And, it might have taken different forms and got deviated and became a constant angry behavior towards your partner.
So, identifying the origin of your anger towards your partner would be highly important to scrutinize your anger management skills to concentrate on eliminating the anger for that aspect.
However, I am sorry to say that there are no hard and fast anger management pills which you could take and a miracle happens and your anger would vanish. It needs your dedication and constant effort.
Ok, I guess now you must have got an idea as of the importance of identifying the origin of your anger towards your partner. Now, I will tell you the best practice of identifying the origin of your anger. This is a tested technique that did work for many and 99% of the time people found that this process was worth the time and
effort. Not many anger management courses concentrate on the origin of anger and stick to the most common generic anger management techniques. But, “Anger Management for Couples” concentrates on topics and solutions that work in real-life scenarios.
Well, to identify the origin you will have to spend 1 hour for 3 or 4 days. There is a psychological reason behind this. Normally, people try to remember the early conflict that he / she had with his / her partner and conclude that that’s the origin of his / her anger towards his / her partner. But, majority of the times they are wrong and there are different reasons for that. What I normally recommend to my students is to spend only 1 hour a day for at least 3 or 4 days just on identifying the origin of their anger towards their partner. And try spending that 1 hour for the 3 or 4 days in a quite and isolated place where you will be able to recollect what the origin of your anger was. In many of the cases I found that the origin of couples anger is not based on just one aspect but many. Well, no problem. Identify all of them and write them down in your own words on a piece of paper.
Write down the reasons for each of your anger origin in detail. Try to be as brief as you can as this will help you to analyze your solutions more. However, if you can complete this step successfully you will be able to overcome your anger much more efficiently.
Keep this list of your anger origins in your file as you will need them throughout this course.
Alright, I will leave you here and I expect you to complete your homework before my next email.
